Are You Hungry Or Are You Needy?
Are You Hungry Or Are You Needy?
There is a saying in the Network Marketing industry that it's better to work with people who are hungry than with those who are needy, and I would tend to agree.
After all, needy people tend to be desperate and whiny and stuck in a rut, always asking for help, never believing in themselves, pulling you down by their mere presence.
Hungry people, on the other hand, know their worth.
They have the confidence needed to get things done.
They help others.
They provide value.
They attract other hungry people.
They build teams and a massive organization.
It is important to note that sometimes hunger and neediness can dwell in the same person.
I know both dwell in me.
Maybe you too?
And sometimes it's hard to discern from the outside looking in whether a person's actions come from a person's hunger to succeed or a desperate need.
But the important thing to realize is that neediness can develop into hunger with the right mindset.
To prove this point, I want to tell you a story.
Are You Hungry Or Are You Needy?
I once knew a woman named Monica. Monica was a young woman on a mission, when I met her. You see, Monica was money hungry. She was money hungry because she had just walked away from a painful marriage with nothing but the clothes on her back and three boxes. Of course, she'd gotten some settlement money from her divorce, but she didn't have a car or a home or a J.O.B. at the time.
Desperate times, don't you think?
Now, you might be surprised to hear that Monica had a deep aversion to working for someone else. She had that entrepreneurial spirit deep down inside her bones that prompted her to buy a cheap car, a cheap house, and risk the rest of what little money she'd had into setting up shoppe on Main Street in the new town she'd settled in. She lasted 5 months in that shoppe. Out of money, with no other resources, she got that dreaded J.O.B., she knew she'd despise. She lasted 7 months there.
Desperate times, don't you think?
Never one to give up (determined she was), she decided to venture into the world of real estate. After all, her father was a carpenter. Her brother was a carpenter. Her ex-husband was one too. So she knew houses.
So with the help of her mother and a new laptop, she took the courses, read books on marketing, and got licensed, then hit the ground running. She was hungry. She knocked on the doors of FSBO's (For Sale by Owners). She called Expired Listings. She sent out mailings, marketed and advertised herself as an expert. She stayed in the office late and went in on the weekends, when no one else would.
Desperate times, don't you think?
And she built up an inventory of listings….
But once Monica calculated the money she would make from the work she had done, she realized that she was 'worth more' than what her broker was paying her, so she walked away from her company, leaving $18,000 worth of commissions on the table.
Desperate times, don't you think?
Within 6 months, she regained her inventory and then some, and by this time, she had a hunger burning in her soul to become a broker, so she could have complete control over her time and her resources. So she got her broker's license and left that company too, leaving $24,000 worth of commissions on the table.
And she went to work.
She partnered with an investor looking for investment properties and got a property under contract that would earn her a $90,000 commission.
Then the deal fell through. The investor backed out. Shortly after, the market crashed. And Monica lost everything.
She lost her house. She lost her car. She lost her standing in the community.
Monica became desperate.
Are You Hungry Or Are You Needy?
She was forced to work in a factory. She was forced to ride a bicycle to work, even in the cold, wintery snow. People avoided her, men especially. They labeled her a desperate, needy woman. But Monica knew….
That deep, down inside her soul there was a hunger….burning….a low flame….flickering….to get back in the game. So she ignored the taunts and the teasing that what she needed was a 'sugar daddy', and she pressed on….
Until the time came, when this time, she could take what she had learned along the way and make it BIG.
So she got another J.O.B.. This time one she liked. And she waited. And she watched for a need in the Marketplace that only she could fill.
Because she was hungry.
Let me ask you, dear Reader.
Are You Hungry Or Are You Needy?
Are you hungry, like my friend Monica was?
Are you hungry today?
If so, are you looking to team up with someone like Monica – someone who has an entrepreneurial spirit that won't let her go? Because, if you are, there are A LOT of Monica's out there, wanting, needing, hungry to get back in the game….And I can assure you that this time their game won't be real estate. This time, most of the Monica's of this world will be looking for something else, something BETTER, something with the promise of residual income.
How do I know?
I was 'Monica'.
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Juli Becker
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Hi Juli,
What a great story of determination! Your friend Monica sounds like quite a remarkable woman. I love to hear these kinds of anecdotes.
It’s all about how bad we want it. Hunger is just the beginning, but I’ve found that it’s usually not enough to drive people. They have to want to do something about it – when they do, it’s like a light has been switched.
Just my 2 cents!
Cat
Cat,
What a great interjection to this story. You’re right. Hungry people do need to want to do something about it. We can’t make them. We can only pique their interest.
Love it when the light switches on because then their hunger turns to passion.
And I LOVE passionate people, don’t you?
Respectfully,
Juli
Love this post Juli – your style of telling a story and then connecting it to yourself in the end makes it compelling. If you had started telling it as your story from the beginning, it would have looked like a pitch! Well done my friend!
Thanks, Val!
Great story Juli and a real pleasure to be acquainted with you. I am very very hungry by the way. Keep smiling.
I can sense that hunger, David. Keep ROCKIN’, my friend!
Wow, wow, wow, Juli this is so powerful. Did you see Hoverson’s note about how he “closes” his deals? This reminds me of it a lot. If you have an entrepreneurial spirit that won’t go away no matter how many times you are forced to work a job, then you will be driven to success.
I didn’t recognize that I was an “entrepreneur” until quite late on (i.e after children) – I was caught up in moving up the corporate ladder and earning a decent wage, but ultimately I KNEW that I just didn’t want to be doing what others were doing and could see no real future in it and it has driven me ever since!
Thanks for sharing Juli,
Nicky
Thanks for sharing this, Nicky.
I too am sometimes tempted to climb the corporate ladder in my current J.O.B., and it’s ironic and frustrating that every time I gain momentum in my Network Marketing biz, they promote me or give me additional responsibilities.
They’re not going to win though. I can assure you of that, even if it takes until I’m 80, I will fight to become and support others who are entrepreneurs.
Sincerely,
Juli
theres a thin line between Hunger and Needs, you have clearly declared it in here Juli. By the way, i don’t know if its me but why is your site loading slowly in my pc?
Zim, I apologize. I’ll clear the site’s cache, so hopefully that will help. Thanks for taking the time to comment! Juli
Powerful story!
Thanks, Duke.
Juli, I love your transparency.. It’s motivating and full of hope. The timing of this post is perfect.. Keep smiling
Thanks, Shalonda.
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Thank you for commenting, Amy, and you’re welcome.
Wow Juli – what an incredible post! I absolutely love your story. I hope many, in fact I know many people who read it will feel so inspired.
It’s also worth pointing out that being needy isn’t attractive. Being desperate is a big turn off. I recently mentored someone who was so desperate. He had gone from making considerable money to loosing everything and getting divorced etc. He had hit rock bottom and was actually depressed. He was desperate to make money and was literally running around like a headless chicken, stressed and not getting great results. He oozed desperation.
People are attracted naturally to successful people. To people who are happy, not stressed (or at least show it!). It gives them hope, inspiration, motivation. It’s like a magnet pulling people towards you.
I believe that as an entrepreneur one of the traits is huger. A hunger for better things, a hunger to do things your way, a hunger for success.
Fantastic post, thanks for sharing your amazing story:)
Lilach, thank you for commenting.
Sadly, I know too well the symptoms of that sufferable condition called neediness, and indeed it repels. But I know too that desperation need only be temporary (thank God!).
What a great service successful people provide by magnetically pulling the desperate and needy out of the darkness and into the light of ‘hope, inspiration, and motivation’. I believe there is a hunger in all of us, once we are able to rise above that neediness.
Thank you for being such an inspiration to so many, including myself.
Juli